Have you ever worried about someting that never happened?
Most of have done this and still do! Why? Why, after we have done it once, do we still worry about things that will probably never happen and even if they do happen, we realize right now, there is nothing we can do about it.
Here is the perfect example. I am currently in Columbus, Ohio. Starting last night and through this morning, the weather people are hooting and hollering that the storm is coming! The storm is coming! and bring with it 102 inches of snow, fereeezing cold temperatures and blowing winds. Aftet the snow today the temperatures will drop to near zero and it's going to feel like 30 below with the windshill!
OH NO!!!!
What shall we do? What can we do? It's going to be terrible.
And people were already planning how they would call in sick so they wouldn't have to fight the drive, the traffic, the stupid driver who don't know how to drive in the snow. The freezing cold, the windchill. They are worrying all about all of the things that they have no control of.
So why worry?
Notice I did not say plan. Sure, plan how this might affect you if that happens. Plan how you will be ready and what you will take for precautions.
But this happens in our real lives every day. Oh no, I think I didn't finish that prokject and document it correctly. Oh no, I think I upset a person at work. I wonder why no one at work likes me? I wonder is I am doing enough to get noticed? I wonder if they have cutbacks like the rumors say if I will be let go? I wonder that when they say they are hiring new people if they are thinking of getting rid of the people like me whohave seniority and they pay more? I wonder if my boyfriend is made at me because he hasn't called? I wonder if my girfriend will be mad at me because I didn't buy her an expensive gift for her birthday? I wonder if my dog peed on the floor while I was gone to long today? I wonder if I left te coffee pot on? I wonder if I put the lunchmeat away after I made a sandwich?
I wonder, I wonder... and in wondering we are worrying.
I don't know why we all worry about things like this. Why do we worry about things that are much more important? Much more significant? But I do know this...
Here are the statistics on WORRYING:
Only 8 percent of our worries are actually over
legitimate troubles.
Dr. Walter Cavert did a study of the things we worry
about. He discovered that:
40 percent of the things we worry about never
happen,
30 percent of our worries concern the past,
12 percent of our worries are needless worries
about our health,
10 percent of our worries are insignificant or petty
(things that will really not make much of a difference
in our lives one way or another)
We spend 92 percent of our emotional energies over things that won’t happen or
things we can’t change.
Here is how you win over worry!
Always have a positive outlook. Set your dreams and goals and do something every day that will get you closer to your dreams!
Believe in yourself! This is probably the most difficult thing you have to do. But it can be learned and I highly recommend that you do this. It will take time and love and energy but once you believe in yourself, much of your worries will disappear!
And that is something we all want, to be worry-free!
Need to learn how to believe in yourself? Write to me at steve@mentalprosperityblog.com and we can talk about what it might take. Or buy my relationshp book, The Twenty that teaches people how to learn what makes them happy and go after it! I belive in you!
Steve Sapato
Life Coach
Professional Coach and Speaker
